The Ninth Commandment of Marriage: Be Truthful

[Gary Cardwell]

The ninth commandment for marriage speaks to the heart of any marriage, trust. It is found in Exodus 20:16,

"Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbour."

Someone who would lie about their neighbor, for whatever reason, is not going to make a good marriage partner. Honesty and trust are at the heart of a good marriage.

If you take advantage of people for your own gain, speaking untruthfully to get ahead, you are not a person to be trusted. And you ultimately are the loser.

I am reminded of the guy who was in a fender bender, and he feigned an injury, pretended like he hurt his arm and his shoulder. As a result, the poor little lady who had run into his car was subjected to a truly horrible situation. She was grilled by attorneys, had to give depositions, and ended up in court.

But this guy continued trying to take her for all she was worth. He didn't care because he knew she had money. He didn't care if she had to give up her house. He was looking at an opportunity to get rich.

The attorney for the lady's insurance company put him on the stand and said, "I would like to know, since the accident, since you injured your arm and your shoulder, how far can you now raise your arm?"

With great pain etched on his face, he said, "Well...'bout here. That's it. Just to here." Then the attorney asked, "Well, how far could you lift it before the accident?" The guy responded, raising his arm with ease, "I could lift it up to here."

Needless to say, he lost.

Anyone who is not truthful will ultimately lose. And if your spouse will lie to someone else, he or she will lie to you.

[Gary Cardwell]

You are very welcome Bro Ronald and thank you for taking the time to reply :)

[Ronald A. Nelson]

Trust and truth are at the core of faith... and any lasting relationship. It is therefore, imperative that we guard trust and keep a truthful relationship with those we love... Starting with God, trust and truth must be extended to all those in our lives.

Thanks. Gary for sharing these sound teaching points... we all can learn by them.

Prophet.

[Bro Jake]

Amen. . . And it works the other way around also: If your spouse will lie to you, he or she will also lie to someone else. Honesty is the intrinsic key to any healthy relationship. JESUS said that he was the way, the truth, and the life. Without honesty no one can possibly arrive at the truth. How then, can anyone be honest and forthright toward a spouse without the Spirit of Truth? Without the truth, what does one have? Without the truth, what is left? A: Delusion.

People say that they are truthful, but how can they know it if they do not have the truth? JESUS is the truth. Without JESUS it is impossible to be truthful about anything; but if one would be honest, then one would also arrive at the truth; and, if one arrives at the truth, then one must receive the truth, or reject it. If one receives the truth, then one receives Christ also. The truth will make you free.

As Christians, we are instructed to keep our vessels full. When our vessels are full, we are truth-full. GOD knows the honest heart better than anyone else. JESUS fills our hearts with truth. If JESUS is the truth, the way, and the life, then all who have JESUS also have the truth. Honesty is a two-way street we are also told; but who is prepared to take that road that leads toward the avenue of honesty? The contrite and broken-hearted have greater hope than the proud and boastful. Cast your cares on Him.

Sneaky little secrets... Sneaky little lies... Only take one further away from a meaningful relationship with anyone at all. In fact, one of the most common forms of dishonesty is frequently shrouded in the practice of one's own lying to one's own self... This is commonly called DENIAL. For the want of a meaningful relationship with JESUS, many today suffer from the want of a meaningful relationship with ANYONE. Life can get lonely and empty without the LORD. Please believe me when I say I am not making this up. . . I have been there.

Lying to one's own self ALWAYS results in lying to others. Only honesty before GOD can solve this. Only JESUS can provide us with that level honesty which is required to be completely truthful, with ourselves, and with others. Wherefore we would do well to let our yea be yea and our nay be nay, and to PRAY for that honesty which will provide us the correct words to declare the truth according to the will of the Master Who is both righteous and true.

Here is a little something to ponder: There is intellectual honesty, there is emotional honesty, and then there is spiritual honesty. One would do well to pray for all of it. Those who fail to be spiritually honest are incapable of producing good works because they do not have access to the Spirit of Truth which makes it possible to produce them in the first place! Those who fail to be emotionally honest quickly become hardened and incompassionate. They too, will fall away from the true light. Those who fail to be intellectually honest quickly become legalistic and self-right. No matter how anyone would categorize it, dishonesty leads one away from the truth, whereas honesty leads all to the cross of Christ. Turn to the source of all honesty and truth... Turn to JESUS and the works will follow.

This is the full Bible truth

GOD bless the reader